DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE become infatuated with a woman at the gym.
I am happily married and have a job that I love. I try to stay fit so I put in an hour or so at the gym most evenings before I go home.
A woman is usually there at the same time. We just say “hello”. She’s about 34. I’m 38.
Someone told me she is married but I fantasize about having sex and doing wild things with her.
I know this is pure lust and I don’t want to destroy my marriage. How can I overcome this obsession?
DEIDRE SAYS: You say you are happily married but how active and satisfying is your sex life with your wife?
You can probably overcome your obsession by going to the gym before work, putting more energy – and maybe simply time – into your relationship with your wife and stopping viewing any porn.
My e-leaflet on Sexual Fantasies will help too.